5 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Constantly

Questions that will lead to a better life

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A life without questions is like a banquet without wine.

If you are not questioning what you are doing, where you going, and how you spend your life, you’re not living to your full potential.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of drifting through life, but that is a mistake.

No growth can come from this scenario. You will stagnate and regress, while time passes you by in a flash.

Before you know it, you’re in the future looking back at what you were doing and thinking about what could have been.

If only you questioned yourself a little more.

It’s not easy to look at yourself critically and introspectively. It is something a lot of us struggle with, and for good reason.

If you’re too critical, you can end up demoralising yourself and failing to achieve the purpose of your questioning.

Whereas, if you check in on yourself too infrequently, you will find yourself marooned in the same place for the foreseeable future.

You have to strike the right balance between the two, which is no easy feat.

A good place to start is by asking yourself these five simple questions.

I try to ask myself these questions every month or so. Ever since I have started, they have had a positive impact on my life.

I am forcing myself to take ownership of my life, and assume responsibility for how I live my life.

The questions are simple. Once you’ve done it a few times, you’ll wonder how you went without doing it before!

What Am I Doing?

This is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself.

What you do defines who you are as a person and how far you will go in life.

If you spend you’re time messing around and watching endless shows on Netflix, you’re not going to get very far in life.

Conversely, if you take ownership of your life and work hard to realise your goals, you will be able to lead the life you want.

It’s easy to think living your dream life, is simply that, a dream. But, it’s not as far-fetched as it may seem.

If you commit to setting goals and having a firm idea of what you want to do, you can get there if you commit to it.

This is why it’s important to ask yourself what you’re doing. If you’re procrastinating at every opportunity, you’re going to find yourself in the same place down the line.

Personal growth requires a lot of introspection and soul-searching. You can’t do it while watching the latest Netflix documentary.

Next time you find yourself struggling to meet your goals, ask yourself what you’re doing and whether it’s contributing to your goals.

If it’s not, cut it out, and replace it with something that does.

You’ll find the results come quicker than you would expect!

Where Am I Going?

This question ties into the above question. It’s not asking the question in a literal sense, but in a figurative one.

Life is a journey, and it’s important to have a sense of where you’re headed, otherwise, you could end up somewhere you don’t want to be.

I found myself in this situation when I graduated from university.

I struggled to find a job afterwards, and ended up working in a betting shop, which was uninspiring to say the least.

I would wake up for work and dread going in, such was the mundane nature of the job.

Three years of university had resulted in me taking bets from middle-aged men! I felt like I had missed something along the way.

As the months went on, despite my antipathy towards the job, I was still there taking bets.

I was too afraid to make a change. I was drifting.

It was only when I was hit by a car while cycling home from work, that I was shaken out of my stupor.

I realised I had to take ownership of where I was going, otherwise, I would end up somewhere I didn’t want to be.

Or potentially worse, stuck in the same miserable job a few years down the line.

It took a car crash for me to realise where I wanted to go, and find the courage to go there.

Don’t wait until a drastic event does the same for you. Ask yourself, am I heading in the right direction?

Am I going where I want to go?

If the answer is no, you need to change course.

Who Am I Spending My Time With?

There is a famous quote from Goethe that relates to who you spend your time with:

“Tell me with whom you consort with and I will tell you who you are.”

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

It’s cliche that is tossed around a lot. I see this quoted at least once a week on the internet.

A cliche it may be, but it holds a lot of truths.

If you’re spending your time with people who like to drink, party and play video games, you’re never going to reach your goals.

No one became successful by neglecting hard work. You need to break free and spend time with people who have similar goals to your own.

Humans are social creatures, it’s amazing how much we yearn to be with others, even if it’s to the detriment of our hopes and wishes.

You need to look at your peer group with a critical eye.

Do these people have a similar mindset to mine?

Are they living the life I want to lead?

It can be tough to part ways with friends. But, if they are holding you back from achieving your goals, you’re better off without them.

You need to hang around with people who will pull you up, not with those who will drag you down.

How Do I Feel?

In this modern day and age, this question is an increasingly important one to ask yourself.

We are bombarded with images of people with perfect lives, and adverts showcasing the next best product.

It’s not hard to fall into the trap of feeling like you’re missing out and you’re not as worthy as others.

This is a dangerous path to go down. One that can lead to anxiety, depression and any number of mental health issues.

It’s no surprise we are in the midst of an anxiety epidemic, when we are constantly flicking though Instagram and comparing our lives to what we see on a screen.

We are only human, it’s natural to compare ourselves to others and against imaginary parameters we set in our minds.

But, it’s a dangerous game. If we allow ourselves to do this, we let our thoughts overwhelm us and drive us crazy.

We need to keep a handle on it to keep ourselves sane.

Likewise, if your body is aching and you’re feeling off, you need to ask what is the cause of this.

We only get one body. It goes with you wherever you go, and you can’t exchange it for another one.

You’re stuck with it whether you like it or not.

To ignore pain, will be your downfall.

Listen to your body. If you don’t look after yourself, one day, you will have no choice but to do so.

Who Do I Want To Be?

This is one of the most important questions you can ask yourself at any point in your life.

Contrary to what a lot of us believe, we have the ability to make ourselves into anybody we wish to be.

Hitler, Stalin and Pol Pot were not born as despots. It was circumstance and the environment they lived in that shaped their views and made them into the notorious figures they would become.

Likewise, we all have the ability to choose who we want to be.

This question ties into the other four, and is the ultimate outcome of those questions.

How you answer all four and what you do afterwards, will define who you become.

If you decide to continue wasting your time procrastinating and not take responsibility for your actions, you will continue to drift and not live your life to its full potential.

We all have the potential to become the best version of ourselves, but it doesn’t just happen.

It’s the result of a conscious effort to become that person.

You have know where you’re going and what you’re doing. You can’t achieve it be hanging around with people who drag you down. Nor can you achieve it by not being in tune in with your body.

You need to question yourself all the time. Ask yourself if you are on the right path and not drifting.

It takes guts, commitment and desire to become the person you want to be.

Holding yourself to account is simply the first step.

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