The Way We Talk To Ourselves Tells Us More Than We Realise

Self-talk can be useful, or it can be detrimental

Tom Stevenson
5 min readFeb 25, 2019


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All of us, no matter who we are, talk to ourselves. We may not physically talk to ourselves, but there is a constant chatter inside our heads that rarely subsides.

That little voice in our head will always be there. It will be with us through thick and thin, a constant companion on the journey of life.

That’s why it’s imperative that we talk to ourselves with respect and affection, and don’t put ourselves down.

You don’t want to end up in a scenario where your inner voice is constantly sniping at you. There is no way we would let anyone else talk to us like this, so why she should we talk to ourselves like this?

Self-love is the first step on the path to loving others. After all, how can you love others if you do not love yourself first?

We may let ourselves be dictated to by our inner voice, but to become our best selves we need to become its master, not its minion.

Talk To Me

You are the only person that you will spend your entire life with. From the day you are born to the day you die, you will have yourself for company no matter what.

The way we talk to ourselves is a fundamental factor in shaping who we become. It influences how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about what we can achieve, how we are viewed by the world and how we interact with it.

All of this chatter affects us on a scale we seldom recognise. It impacts our self-esteem, self-worth and how we portray ourselves. If your internal voice is either negative or positive that will make a huge difference to your life.

We need to acknowledge how we talk to ourselves, otherwise, we will end up being ruled by our thoughts inside of controlling them.

When I was younger, I had terrible self-esteem. I would go as far as to say that I barely had any self-esteem at all. A lot of this was influenced by insecurities about my weight, but this was perpetuated by the chatter inside my head.

I let external factors influence my internal well-being. I would constantly put myself down…



Tom Stevenson