Why You Have To Live Your Life On Your Terms

Today I am going to one of my best friend’s wedding.

I have known him since the age of 8, and now, at 28, he is getting married. As someone that is nowhere near this milestone, it’s easy to wonder what I am doing with my life.

It’s only natural when you see everyone around you doing the same thing and you are living your life in a different manner.

When I was younger, I always had an idea of how my life would play out. Most of those scenarios involved me getting married by 30.

As life plays out, you realise how frivolous those ideas were and how life almost never turns out the way you imagine it.

Life is what happens when you are busy making plans. I realised this when I got hit by a car and decided to live my dream and travel to Australia.

We all may have an idea of where we want to go, but it’s not easy making those dreams a reality.

It’s easy to look around you and see what everyone else is doing and get sucked into thinking that you should be doing the same.

This is a dangerous exercise. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

You have to decide what you want out of life and pursue it, regardless of what anyone else thinks or what they are doing.

No One Path

If I think back to when I was in primary school, I remember wanting to be a footballler when I grew up.

If you asked most of the boys in my class what they would like to be when they were older, the majority of the other boys would have said the same thing.

None of us were good enough to make the grade as a professional footballer, but it shows how ubiquitous are dreams were when we were younger.

Does this change as we get older?

I’m not so sure.

For some they become relentless in their pursuit of their goals, and live their life in one direction, while others tread the commonly worn path that may others do.

This is the beauty of life, there is no one way to live it.

What is right for one person, may not be right for another. You have to look at yourself and decide what you want out of life.

It is not wise to look to others and see what they are doing, because they are living life on their terms.

You have to live your life on your own terms.

We may all grow up with the wish to be a footballer, astronaut, or musician, but as we get older, we grow and evolve and our dreams become more realistic.

We may all want to get married, settle down and have kids, but there is no limit on when this must be done.

Live Your Own Life

As I go to my sixth wedding in three years, it’s only natural to wonder where I am headed in life.

When I look around at my friend’s getting engaged and married, it does make me wonder whether I should be doing the same thing.

We are social creatures. Comparison between our peers is a part of being human. We can’t help it.

In some ways, it’s good, but if you fixate on it, you could end up becoming miserable.

It’s important to remember that your life is yours, and yours alone.

No one can tell you how to live it, and you must make the most of it while you have the chance.

If I followed what everyone around me was doing, I would not have travelled for the past 5 years, and met some incredible people and visited some beautiful locations.

I would have remained in the same place, likely been miserable, and not have grown as a person.

By living life on my terms, I became happier and more fulfilled.

What is right for one, is ont right for everyone.

Life comes in many shapes and sizes, there is no one size fits all solution. It’s about finding the right fit for your life, not looking longingly at what others have.

Today, I will enjoy the wedding and continue my journey on the path of life, and see where it takes me.

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